Coaching is all about the Coachee/Client/Leader and
…not about a Coach or sponsor or ….
So while there’s a lot to refer to about “Being effective as a coach”, there is
limited information about, “How to be an effective Coachee”.
Coaching as a practice is growing and proving to be an essential intervention to support Senior leadership teams through Executive coaching, Leadership development, Continuous change, Performance improvement, Leadership presence and so on. Organisations are engaging coaches directly, through intermediaries and even using platforms such as Coach connect and Better Up to make coaching accessible to young leaders.
Being a new coachee means they don’t have the training/knowledge of being one and it is very likely dramatically to impact the motivation, cooperation, efficiency and effectiveness of good executive coaching.
The focus of this post is on Executive Coachees and all individuals who are on there coaching journey as a Coachee so that they can get the most out of this opportunity and investment.
- Know what Coaching is and is not
- Choose coaching rather than being pushed into it
- Be clear about your own and the coach’s roles and responsibilities, preferably sign a coaching contract/agreement and thus set expectations with the coach at the start of the coaching partnership
- Respect & commit to timelines
- Confidentiality is key in coaching, so you can be honest and feel safe in exploring “what’s important to you”
- If aligned by the organisation, seek clarity about the purpose/objective of the coaching engagement; if not be clear about what do you want to “get out of the coaching session/engagement”
- You hold “centre-stage” in the coaching engagement and for all coaching sessions- so you must come ready and prepared since you also bring -in the agenda/topic of Coaching to the sessions
- Observe for what are your key take-aways, learnings, awareness from the coaching sessions/engagement- learning happens when change happens.
- Since you lead the coaching sessions, you take ownership & responsibility of your learning & development.
- A Coach will expect you to stretch yourself, to go beyond your comfort zone and encourage you to take risks- be sure you are ready for that.
- Be courageous, honest and objective in sharing with the coach what’s working in the coaching partnership and what’s not; rather than being critical and complaining about what’s not working behind the coach’s back
- An effective coach is someone who’ll be helping you in moving forward, so take a helicopter view of what it looks like for you in the coaching journey.
Coaching arrangements may falter, not always because of the coach or the coaching arrangement/company but also because the coachee had little training in how to make the best use of this wonderful opportunity.